Sorry, parents, but your sons and daughters have secrets. Whether they don’t want to upset you or are sick and tired of the “same old lecture,” they keep some things to themselves. It’s normal. And it doesn’t mean they hate you or anything. Plus, there’s a good chance that eventually they will open up to you. Probably. If you’re treating them right.
Because as Reddit user 1quid_nurgget found out when they asked, “What is the biggest secret you’ve kept from your parents?“, children often get back at their moms and dads by simply keeping their lives away from them. Yes, there were a few innocent answers, but they were mostly exceptions. Continue scrolling and take a look for yourself.
I met the guy my mom told me was my real father. We did a DNA test and there is a 0% chance. He even took me on a white water rafting trip with his wife and son. Ive never told her.
That I was molested as a kid and suicidal for years afterwards. They knew I had a nervous breakdown Freshman year of High School and was suicidal at 15, they didn’t know I’d been messed up since I was 10.
I know that my moms cheating on my dad. He doesnt know its happening (to my knowledge) and she doesnt know that I know.
When I was at Walmart with my mom, and I stole 2 of those big cartons full of Pokemon Cards. Took the cards and stuffed them in my backpocket. I planned the whole robbery a week before. I was the best robber at 9.
My mom always wondered why i didn’t have friends in high school and it is because we were broke and I knew she was struggling so i refused anytime people wanted to do things so I wouldn’t ask for money then in my last year of high school I worked full time so I had no time to make friends
I recorded Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz over my sister’s high school graduation video.
It’s been about 18 years, but I still feel bad.
Parents are (and raised me to be) staunch Mormon. (For those unfamiliar, Mormons believe their church is the only true church on Earth.)
I don’t believe it’s true. They think I still go, but it’s infrequent at best.
i just pay escorts to show as my ‘girlfriend’ so they would stop telling their friends to hook me up with their daughters.
every gathering they would show up meet everyone and always have to leave early.
i pay by hour.
I make more money than I let on. My parents have and will always be the “I take care of you all your life, time for you to pay it back” type of parent. Except there is no end to this “debt”. So I hide money from them so they can’t take advantage of me
When I was 12 I saw emails on my mom’s iPod touch. The emails were very suggestive and were between my mother and another man. I never told my dad that I saw those emails. I wish I did, because it turned out that she was cheating on him.
This is the first time I’ve mentioned it to anyone. It feels good to get it off my chest.
I want to be a dental surgeon, but my parents want me to go to school for a crackpot antivaxx “holistic” naturopathic doctor because they don’t trust modern medicine. I’m afraid that if I tell them, They well refuse to pay for my college/dental school expenses, or worse, disowned.
I am transgender. I haven’t told literally anyone I know. I live in the bible belt in the south, and my grandfather is the pastor and owner of a fairly large church. I don’t have any plans on telling anyone or transitioning until I move from the town I’m living in right now.
This isn’t too bad, but I never really want to have kids. Maybe one day that might change, but I haven’t told my parents as they both seem so happy to think that one day they’ll be grandparents and that I’ll be a mother and we’ll all be happy and – Mum? I already have enough stress.
I told them that I was doing a extra on site learning course for uni in which I would be away for 31 days interstate. My husband sorted out the kids so he was fine.
I actually went to a residential rehab and got clean and sober. Didnt tell them until I was released. They literally had no idea.
I was heavily addicted to morphine for my entire time at university.
I was accused of rape when I was 17 (legally an adult in Texas so they didnt have to tell them) and a detective took my phone for the school day to verify the texts proving the encounter was consensual were real. Really weird time in my life, having to deal with the fallout at school and not telling them the truth.
That I don’t love them. I care about them in the way I care for a hurt stranger but I won’t be crying when they die except for over the stress of handling the funeral and finding a place for their kid and animals to live.
That I used to sneak out of the house from our second story bathroom window to go nightclubbing with my friends after my parents went to bed.
That I thought I have mental problems but I keep pushing it down and trying to fix it myself, because I think that people will think its for the attention and it makes me question myself but I try to be normal.
I lived with my girlfriend / fianc for ~1.5 years in a house ~45 minutes from where my parents lived prior to us being married. They are very conservative and would have likely not attended the wedding had they known.
My Mom thinks that muscles on girls are gross, and for the years that she knew I worked out she treated me like I’m gross too. It was heartbreaking for me. So now I pretend that I lost interest in lifting weights and I’m much happier this way. (the true fact is that I gave it up for 2 months and couldn’t stand life without it) It’s sad that I can’t keep my Mom in the loop of my most loved passion, but I’ve accepted it 🙂
I sometimes grab lunch or dinner on the way home from class, and I don’t tell them. If I did, I’d probably get yelled at for “wasting money when we have perfectly good food at home.” My mom’s cooking is great but…… sometimes I just want to grab some pizza.
Recently she’s been on a some obscure health diet plan that she’s forcing everyone through, but it’s a bit ridiculous.
My parents don’t know that I’m highly involved in the BDSM community in my city. I even attend a bar at our local fetish club a couple times a month. My fianc and I are super vanilla passing. Which is lucky. They’re happier not knowing.
Stole money for weed and regret it to this day. My lazy [arse] should’ve just gotten a job instead.
I got someone pregnant and I’m pretty sure she kept the baby and didn’t tell me.
That I genuinely have no desire to have a relationship with them. If it wasnt for the wife planning dinners with my mother I would have no relationship at all. Father left in my teenage years and is a pathological liar, so Im better off without him too.
That I’m trans and bi.
My mother passed away before I could come out to her and I really don’t know if my father will care about me more then his political beliefs.
Small secret: Back in high school days, I stole $20 out of my mom’s wallet, and then concocted a complicated but realistic lie to keep it.
Big secret: I’m an atheist. I’m glad they have a big community of people who love them at their church, and it’s nice that some of those people knew me when I was small, but I have no love for their shared belief system. I’m angry that they wanted me to believe in it, too, and when I said I didn’t, they lashed out at me in very cruel ways.
They had no idea I left my job with the cable company to sell cars / write up oil changes for almost a year. I was emotionally burnt out from the bulls**t and couldn’t take it anymore so I tried switching careers. Didn’t really pan out, but it did get me away from that toxic s**thole of a company and allowed me to figure out what I actually wanted to do and go from there.
My mom does not really know she’s the reason my dental health is [screwed] from stress induced teeth grinding… which she knew about and did nothing about it. Nor does she know she’s a major reason as to why I have notable social anxiety and other psychological problems.
She’s gonna find out sooner or later I am sure. I do not live with her anymore for a reason.
When I was in the 7th grade I started to get into [adult content] and my favorite, for some reason, was guy on guy stuff even though Im a girl. Anyways, I didnt know how anything but YouTube worked so I ended up downloading like 3 gay [adult] videos on my phone and I had an Android so when I deleted the videos the download history was still in my phone.
For some reason my mom took my phone and went through it and sat me down and asked me about the [videos] she found on it. But for some more context I had to keep my phone in the living room at night and could only have it during the day.
Now Im not proud of this but Im a good liar. But in this situation I didnt have to do much lying because as soon as I started crying and saying I didnt do it she immediately believed me and blamed it on my step-dad, saying that she had a suspicion that he was gay through their whole relationship and all that.
After that she never confronted him and just continued to stay with him even though she thought he was gay and thats when I realized my mom was a gold-digger.
When I was a child, I was in my parents drawers and opened them and saw (what I now know to be) condoms. I grabbed all the condoms and started making balloon animals. I was obsessed with making them as a kid so I thought they had bought me balloons. The worst part was that I was using the ones that were already used. My parents had a drawer specifically for used condoms. I hate myself for being so dumb.
I snorted my Ritalin prescription for 7 years before I finally started taking it normally again. I was in so deep and they never even knew.
My parents are very staunch Muslims. They raised me strictly in Islam and they figure that Im a good Muslim like the rest of my siblings. I love my parents and they are good people, but I dont have the heart to tell them that Ive never really believed in religion and it only got worse when I got older and went to college. I dont know how to keep this faade any longer because whenever Im home I have to act as Muslim as possible, and I know if I would want them in my life I would have to follow Islamic traditions that just arent for me.